Thursday, June 6, 2013

sigh.....

We are having a hard time being thankful today. Mom got an email on Tuesday from the director of the shelter (remember mom volunteers at 2 places - a limited admission "shelter" and the rescue). Daisy was having problems at the shelter. She spent some time here with us getting over a cold and had been at the shelter for quite a while. And at another shelter before that for about 4 months.

The email asked for mom's input as Daisy was being aggressive with other cats and was attacking people. Mom once again told them that after seeing Daisy here, she was sure it was more inappropriate behavior due to lack of socialization - and that the stress of being in a shelter wasn't helping.

This morning mom got the notice that was sent to the volunteer leaders at the shelter. Daisy was euthanized yesterday due to her unpredictable and unstable behavior. While we understand their position, we are heartbroken that the place that intially took her in did such a disservice to her (and heaven only knows how many other cats) by putting her in a cage at 6 weeks old. We know that this shelter didn't want to add to her stress anymore and that they felt letting her go was the best way. We aren't here to criticize that and we hope that if you feel otherwise you will not comment as mom is heartbroken enough.

We know that some people will ask "why didn't you take her?" Honestly, she needed a quiet home with a cat that would have taught her how to act. While we could teach her, there are too many tiny kittens here and honestly, she was unpredictable enough that mom won't risk the tinies. We don't have enough space to separate her - which wouldn't really be fair either. And then once she was here, then what? The chances of finding her a family would be pretty small. There is just no good answer to a problem like this.

We hope Daisy is finding some peace over the Bridge. And we are sorry that there wasn't more we could have done to help her......

(we know some of you read about this yesterday on facebook but mom is still pretty upset and just wanted to get it out)

23 comments:

  1. This made us very sad. May Daisy be at peace and stress free with new friends she makes at the Bridge.

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  2. I did read about on Facebook and it is very sad and I mean sad that there are some cats that just have trouble socializing. It is so hard with so many cats that need homes. I have a cat sitting in a room by herself because all the others here chase her and jump on her. And the rescue person told me just to take her to the shelter where she would have been put to sleep. I sure can understand why you are upset. It is so hard trying to save them all.

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  3. Oh no. I am so sorry. I am so so sorry.

    Take care
    x

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  4. I'm so sorry to hear what happened to Daisy. And I certainly do understand the heartbreak this has brought to you.

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  5. Very sorry about Daisy...and understand what you are going though. You know you did what you could for her and you do so much for so many cats and kittens! Kitten socialization is SO critical so the more it's talked about by you and other foster parents the more it gets done and serves the memory of Daisy and helps other cats too. Hang in there!

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  6. I wish Daisy could have had different circumstances in which to grow. It was no one's fault, certainly not yours. I'm very sorry.

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  7. I am truly sorry. It breaks my heart too. Blessed little on with many friends at last, over the Rainbow. She knows you did what you could.

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  8. It is sad but perhaps in her absence another kitten or two will be saved and when Daisy comes back she will come back in a more restful form.

    Goat hugs

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  9. We are sorry to hear Daisy was euthanised but if she was going to be passed round to and from different people she would have been beyond stressed. It is sad but know that she is at peace and you did all you could for her.
    Luv Hannah and Lucy xx xx

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  10. Well pardon me, but that is a disgusting bunch of humans. They should not be allowed to call themselves a shelter. I do hope karma visits the decision maker really soon. Run free dear Daisy, you did not deserve to be touched by evil.

    Sorry, I don't rant often, but that is horrible and I am so sorry.

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  11. tim's mom...we bee trooly trooly sorry ewe N daisy...had to go thru this...

    pleez dont bee sew hard on yur self...everee time a kitteh, pup, any pet... crosses rainbow bridge we all ask what did we due, what didn't we due...what should we haz done....why, why, why....

    even tho ewe had her only a short time; during that short time her new what love N compassion wuz all about.....ewe did yur best

    God's speed two ewe daisy; chek us out when ewe get settled in, we will bee happee ta show ewe round de bridge

    XOXO

    dude N sauce =^..^=

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  12. This TOTALLY could have been Binga - I doubt she would do well in shelter environment. And the cat before me would have been even worse - she needed freedom and to be an only cat (the years when she did not have to deal with a second were the happiest ones of her life). It's one of the unspoken tragedies and problems of shelters - certain pet personalities do NOT thrive there, and there are not always fosters available to cope with them. I know there is a solution out there for those kitties, somewhere...

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  13. Poor Daisy, I'm sorry, Jeanne. She didn't get a break at all (and that had nothing to do with you). :-(

    The boys send purrs and nose taps.

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  14. How sad that you can't help all of them, but you do more than your best to try. Purrs to you.

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  15. It is the ones we can't save that always eat at our heads and hearts. Daisy had an insurmountable task of learning to trust, and it was impossible to overcome the difficulties she faced from her earliest moments. The White Dog Army gently woos her happiness and love over the Bridge and hopes you both come to know peace.

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  16. How very, very sad. Poor Daisy!

    You did as much as you could, and so much more than others. It has to be very hard, and I truly feel sorry.

    Take care.

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  17. This could have been our Zoey. We are so very sorry.

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  18. We hope Daisy is now able to run free at the bridge and will never be behind a cage again. We are sorry.

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  19. Run Free, Little Daisy, in a place where you will feel no fear. As for that "shelter", we think they should never be allowed to use that word again.

    Soft Purrs,
    The Chans

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  20. Jeanne, this just breaks my heart. I'm so, so sorry.

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  21. How sad that there is no good answer for a kitty like Daisy and that she wasn't given a better opportunity at the shelter for socialization early on. We could not imagine you taking on anymore than you do. Our mommy thinks you are an angel with all you do for so many kitties. Purrs and hugs from the kitties at The Cat on My Head, Lily Olivia, Mauricio, Misty May, Giulietta, Fiona, Astrid, Lisbeth and Calista Josette

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